As you may be finding out firsthand, the months leading up to your wedding can be both an exciting and a stressful time. Getting support during this critical time period can make all the difference in setting your relationship up for success.
I’m a couples therapist in San Diego, and I’ve seen firsthand how helpful premarital counseling can be for partners who are gearing up to take the next big step in their relationship. From setting realistic expectations around the division of labor in your future household to making important decisions like when to start a family, premarital couples therapy offers you a safe, nonjudgmental space to get on the same page.
Beyond seeking therapy in general, it’s also key to choose the right therapist for your relationship. Here are a few reasons why my clients choose me:
- Licensed marriage and family therapist with over a decade of clinical experience
- Trained in couples counseling methods like emotionally-focused couples therapy (EFT) and the Gottman Method
- Advanced education in trauma-focused therapy, including somatic trauma treatment and IFS
- Expertise in attachment styles
- Flexible online sessions make it easy to fit pre-marital counseling into your busy life
- Evening availability so you can get support on your schedule
Plus, I offer free consultations so you can ask questions, learn more about my approach, and get a better sense of whether I’m the right premarital counselor for you. Reach out today to request yours.
At the same time, I recognize that my practice may not be the best fit for all couples. That’s why I’ve curated this list of other local premarital counseling resources. Hopefully, you’ll find the right support for your unique situation.
5 of the best San Diego premarital counselors
1. San Diego Christian Counseling
Many couples enjoy the support of a religious community while preparing for marriage. If you’re specifically looking for Christian premarital counseling to complement that, San Diego Christian Counseling could be a good fit.
2. Waves Psych
Waves specializes in LGTBQIA+ affirmative mental health care. This practice could be a good fit for those seeking specialized premarital counseling for queer and trans individuals, polyamorous relationships, and more.
3. Mind 2 Mend
This practice was founded by NaTasha A. Bailey, MS, LMFT. She specializes in therapy for the BIPOC community, so she could be a good fit for couples who are specifically seeking a BIPOC therapist. Plus, she offers both virtual and in-person sessions.
4. Rawers Therapy
Roy Rawers and his team specialize in addictive behaviors and intimacy struggles. If you or your partner would like to address sex addiction or other intimacy disorders as part of your pre-marital counseling journey, Rawers Therapy could be a good fit.
5. Estes Therapy
Running out of time before the big day? If you and your partner are interested in short-term premarital counseling, Estes Therapy could be a good fit. They offer a package that includes an assessment session, a workbook, and three therapy sessions.
FAQs about premarital counseling in San Diego
What is the success rate of premarital counseling?
Some research has shown that engaging in premarital counseling can improve relationship outcomes by about 30%. Other studies (like this one) suggest that couples who participate in premarital counseling report greater marital satisfaction than those who don’t.
Beyond the research itself, I’ve also seen firsthand how helpful therapy can be. Working with a premarital counselor can help you build communication skills, learn how to effectively resolve conflict, and help you build the strong foundation necessary for a healthy, lasting relationship.
How far in advance should you do premarital counseling?
I recommend starting premarital counseling sooner than later so you have enough time to have meaningful conversations and work through important topics without rushing. With that being said, there’s no “wrong” time to seek professional help. No matter where you’re at in your pre-marriage timeline, I encourage you to reach out for support if you’re interested.
What will we talk about in premarital counseling?
The topics we discuss in premarital counseling will be tailored to your unique relationship needs. Some common topics are communication, conflict resolution, values, future goals, finances, intimacy, and family dynamics. We may also explore expectations around marriage, decision-making, and handling stress together.
Is pre-marriage counseling worth it?
Yes, premarital counseling is often worth it for couples.
There’s often a misconception that your relationship needs to be in crisis in order to seek therapy. However, counseling can help you even if you already have a strong relationship. Having a dedicated space to explore key issues and make important decisions can be a major benefit to couples amongst the business of preparing for a wedding. Plus, dedicating this time to your relationship now can help prevent future issues.
What if my partner doesn’t want to do premarital counseling?
If your partner is hesitant about premarital counseling, it can help to have an open conversation about their concerns. Hear them out and also reassure them that therapy is about growing closer, not just focusing on relationship problems.
You might suggest starting with just one session to see how it feels. If they’re still unsure, individual counseling sessions can also be a valuable way to support both your relationship and personal growth.
I also offer individual therapy in addition to premarital counseling. If you’re not sure which service is right for you, feel free to reach out so we can discuss your situation directly.
How do we choose the premarital counselor who’s best for us?
Finding the right therapist for you and your partner is key. Most therapists offer a free consultation, so I recommend scheduling consultations with a few therapists so you can get a better sense of each counselor’s approach and how they can help you.
When choosing a therapist, be sure to take a look at their training, credentials, and the methods they use. During the consultation, you’ll want to get a feel for their general demeanor and whether you feel comfortable speaking with them.
Start premarital counseling in San Diego today
Ready to get started? I’m here to help you and your partner grow closer before your big day and pave the path to a happy, lasting marriage together. Contact me today to request your free, no-pressure consultation.