Couples Therapy
For partners who want to increase connection, decrease conflict, and get back to enjoying their relationship
Has your relationship become more and more distant?
Maybe there’s been unresolved conflict for too long, or perhaps there’s been infidelity. You may be struggling to remember how good it used to be, or possibly even started to doubt if there is enough connection left to restore. Perhaps you’re feeling scared because you don’t know how to get back to that place when the connection was strong.
Whatever it is that you’re experiencing, this lack of connection is starting to affect every facet of your and your partner’s lives: work, parenting…even your home life doesn’t feel the same. You want this relationship to work, but you don’t know how to break this pattern you find yourselves in.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy can help.
The current state of your relationship might feel insurmountable right now, but you can regain the love and closeness you and your partner have had in the past. You can finally feel seen, heard, and understood again. You can improve your intimacy. And I can help you get there.
Using an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy approach integrated with the Gottman Method, I help couples improve communication, move on from infidelity, and establish greater trust and intimacy. We’ll work on 4 things:
Pinpoint the cyclical communication patterns that keep arguments from ever getting resolved and change from ever happening
Identify core emotions underlying those cyclical patterns
Develop the language to regularly communicate about core emotions
Maintain new communication patterns that sustain closeness
You’ll learn how to manage recurring arguments, feel free to express your needs without fear, develop a pattern where both partners feel heard and understood, and learn how to dissolve resentment that keeps you both isolated.
Every step of this process will be tailored to your unique relationship, its challenges, and you and your partner’s goals. My approach to couples therapy comes from a place of restoration: ultimately believing that relationships are the core curriculum of life and our greatest source of happiness…and that, with the right support, they can be restored and rejuvenated so that each partner feels heard, valued, and safe.
Couples therapy that comes to you.
I provide online-only, confidential therapy to residents of California. Using a HIPAA-compliant video service, you can get the support you need … from anywhere. If you or your partner travels or you are unable to be physically together, online therapy adds another layer of convenience: you can both join from wherever you are!
Los Angeles (Encino, Woodland Hills, Sherman Oaks, West Los Angeles, West Hollywood, Beverly Hills, Century City, Westwood, Brentwood, Santa Monica, Culver City, Venice, Marina Del Ray)
What to Expect
Opening up about the sensitive points of a relationship that isn't working well is a scary thought. This hesitation can then be heightened by the idea of sharing these struggles with a therapist you don't yet know well. I understand the stress of making that first outreach. To ease the stress of this period, I am available for free 15-minute consultations.
From our first talk, I will answer any questions you may have, give you an opportunity to understand my approach to this important work, and determine if we are a good fit.
Once the online couples therapy process starts, you can expect the initial sessions to be dedicated to assessment, establishing your therapy goals, and identifying negative communication cycles. In the middle stage of couples therapy, we will work through research-supported and standardized steps to support each individual in accessing their most important emotions as well as their personal role in the problematic cycles. Once each partner begins to make the new and effective cycles of communicating more habitual, we will know that we are approaching the time to end the therapy process.
I can help you find happiness in your relationship again.
Q: What are couple’s therapy sessions like?
The first sessions will be used for us to get to know each other a little better, for me to better understand your relationship and its history, and to familiarize you with my process of therapy. I’ll also answer any new or lingering questions that may come up for you or your partner. Together, the three of us will establish therapy goals. Once these goals are set, sessions will be a mixture of talking, reflecting, and challenging your current thinking, feeling, and relationship patterns. At the end of sessions, we will identify key takeaways, actionable steps, and any homework that might be relevant to your relationship.
Q: How long do we need to be in therapy?
This is based on each couple’s needs. I’ve had couples choose to work with me for as little as two months and for as long as a year. The duration of therapy will always be decided by you and your partner. I will give you clear and honest feedback about what to realistically expect based on your goals and personal histories. As with any topic, we can discuss this at any stage in the therapy process.
Q: How do we know if couple’s therapy will work for us?
Whether you and your partner have engaged in therapy before, or if this is your first experience with it, I understand it is a big step for your relationship. You can be assured that my over 6 years of clinical experience, advanced trainings, and passion for this work will guide you both in a process of growth—both individually and together. If we are meeting regularly and you are not finding the process helpful, that is something that we can both be comfortable discussing in an open and productive way. Lastly, please be aware that part of the effectiveness of therapy comes from the work being done outside of sessions in completing homework and applying new insights. If you put in the work, you will see the results!
Q: How do we get started?
I’d love to hear from you. Click this link to schedule your initial consultation today. During this call, I will answer any questions you may have about the process of therapy, the cost, my training or approach, scheduling, or any other questions or concerns you may have. Once your questions are answered and you’ve decided therapy is right for you, we get started by scheduling our first session.